5 ways to keep your marriage successful!
They say that true love is rare.. But have you ever stopped to wonder who “they” are or, more importantly, what is meant by love?
ways to keep your marriage successful!
Truth is that generations of romantic movies and stories have embedded a false idea of love inside our heads. However in reality, love is not a tingling sensation that lasts forever or the one you love doesn’t always have to put his life on the line to prove his love for you. On the contrary, true love is a collection of compromises, forgiveness, and understanding.
The number of divorces and unhappy marriages are increasing day by day mostly because we have this fairytale idea of love in our heads. If you feel that you don’t have the initial spark of marriage anymore, or are struggling to keep your marriage together; the following 5 ways might assist you in reigniting the spark from the honeymoon period!
Expectations hurt…a lot!
When you love someone, you want to give them your best and when you do, you expect them to do the same for you. But the problem with expectations is that they often get out of hand. Often in our expectations of others, we fail to see the other person’s limitations.
The trick is to keep your expectations low. Moreover, you can conduct this simple experiment where you and your partner write down two things you expect the most from the each other. This simple exercise will allow both the partners to know what the other expects of them.
There is no such thing as bad communication; it’s actually lack of communication.
Many married couples often fail to communicate which is often the reason of a failing marriage. Most of them only talk about the necessities such as bills, payments, groceries, etc. which doesn’t count as communication.
Try setting aside at least 10 minutes a day to talk with your partner. Try getting to know them better by talking about their likes and dislikes e.g. what movies they liked, what childhood dreams they had, where they want to go for a trip, etc.
Marriages don’t fall apart because of conflicts rather, they die because all of them inevitably end up into a routine. This routine makes everything mundane and the excitement dies.
The trick is to keep the relationship fresh by doing something new every now and then. For example you can try taking a class together, go to a new restaurant, go on a vacation, etc. The trick here is to not let the excitement die.
A person is a collection of his/her mistakes.
Sometimes things will be said that might hurt or your better half might not make it for a movie night. The point is that people make mistakes and if you want a happy marriage, you will have to forgive. On the other hand, if you are the one at fault, accept your mistake and apologize. Don’t let your ego get in the way of a happy marriage.
Little things matter
The little things always count!
Giving compliments, saying “thank you”, giving roses or surprise gifts are all the things you can do to keep your marriage happy. And lastly, date nights are not just for newlyweds; so have regular date nights to keep the romance alive!